The modern traps

Junk food is not for your health. What you eat makes you.
Video games is often seen as a false accomplishment.
Porn: trap. Your sexuality is far better with intimacy and real fulfillment , experimentation.
Uni degree/debt: trap. It’s a trap if you don’t know how to use and where you go.
Celebrity pop culture: trap. A trap cause you should focus on yourself.
Hanging out with people who fall for the trap: trap. YOu should use critical thinking to be aware who lumps in another trap.
Social Media, TV, twitter: the biggest trap and time thief. It’s a trap giving dopamine of a false set and seems like work but isn’t.
drugs. if you dont use them in a smart way, you can lose yourself.
hangouts, try to be with peopel who permit you work to flourish.

even reading is an escape. read the important things. then the enjoyable.
news, politics, false flags are also traps watch my man

then don’t:
argue
politics
self-help
econo-bs
‘news’
then don’t:
Alcohol and drugs, television, porn, videogames

The modern traps

Reflections on Twitter use

after you did go , I was questionning myself
I have many lists delete them

i think we have to know where to end, or what we achieve with twitter

rp and things community is generelity very limited with the topics they handle
except 1-2 goldmund, wall street play, ludwig

there is too much bragado
it’s egotism speaking mostly. sometimes I have this impression

it depends really on how you use
I think i has to be minimal also
Like limiting follow accounts max 150 ( dunbar number ) even 50 is a lot

some accounts are very good
like producthunt to find good internet tools
buffer and quora

It’s good for local lists
for businesses. or readlists for readers

I think it can be good If you have heavy following and then u can promote lots of good things !

i made a lists
for transition movement, my new passion ( well a bit )
https://twitter.com/remi_walle/lists/flux

there u find new info
about how to change society, improve exchange and commerce
it’s very change , value and meaning oriented

few talks about this … lol

I think all communities online suffer from a big big confirmation bias
so if u dont navigate many you suffer
and talks about the same times all the time
Artfulman did make this remark some time ago, but him himself suffer from it on twitter
I dont know about him, not online he could be very diff, but often genuine people dont change their discourses

it’s a tool
for sharing mostly ( well that is how i see it, it should be selfless )
for ego confirmation 😕 yeah but it’s more boy psychology ( refering to king warrior etc )

so I think you could use it
but

do

1) promote gd accounts like @LudvigSGM or @yunawinter2) promote pos masculinity/feminity3) promote beauty, truth, culture, healthRT THIS 4) promote discovery @NatGeo5) promote gd apps @figmadesign & @ProductHunt6) promote way of living @P2P_Foundation & @IPvoices

_ many differents communities
– rt good shit and supports artists, writer, activits
– make some lists for people

do not

– and do not fall for presenting an image on twitter
– and no complaining, no drama, no analyse on women, society and religion lol

how
twitter is good for things but you have how
to use it. i think it’s very interesting for holistic view of
_ personalities
– travel places
– apps
– humor
– universes
– actions you can do
– marketing tricks

– it’s has to be like your spirit, focused, but also very funny sometimes

Reflections on Twitter use

Learning by observing the errors of others 13

Not taking feedback, not reading comments -> you miss a lot by not hearing the others.
not going to the core -> cut the fluff
not trying the both extremes -> it’s kinda the only way to win
not cutting the explanation, not going raw -> cut the fluff
doing thins alone -> take a lot of time, less stimulating . find people
seeking but not confronting -> wasting a lot of time

not seeing the point of the other -> that is what is about
being reigned by anger and null examples -> try to find the good people
being drown in the political -> forget that shit
not seing other option -> bye
not forcing yourself for a job -> is it worth it ?

Not reflecting on the use of twitter or any tool- > you will lose a lot of time if you don’t.
Believe there is one way practically way to attain truth -> there are not many path and truth is not the end of all

Not writing down your arguments. -> Bad presentation
Clinging and attachment is the problem -> Be fluid
Repeating the same arguments over and over -> Stop that.
not showing the examples you life -> no proof, difficulty to believe

thinking truth/wisdom is the absolute to find ->> perhaps it’s more help others, having memories and experiencing realities

resting on laurels -> do more than expected.
interest in celebrity culture -> you are going to be president, you will be known.
not owning yourself -> well.

seems to attract the dogmatic in search of simple solutions to complex problems.
shutting the debate, making assumptions
being influenced by counter-narrative or social group
just showing one side -> there are many
only doing promotion for your company -> not opening to the maximum

Marrying attractive but incompatible women  -> comptability matters more
Comparing yourself to others, whether accurately, optimistically, or humbly -> isn’t the best basis for finding validation

Reading news, commenting news -> Why ?

Learning by observing the errors of others 13

Learning by observing the errors of others 12

Focus on beauty aspect, aesthetic and ignoring the function -> You will miss a lot if you do that.

Not opening up to the < why the perspective could be very beneficial > -> you miss ton of feedback

Doing everything solo -> Create groups for everything and this permits a tight community.

Not taking up the pool of the youngers, or the elders to put their workforce to use -> This is massive bad management

Not giving purpose and task to young men -> massive bad testosterone management

not having social  media multiples accounts -> dont rely only on platform , have your own website
listening to podcasts -> read articles it’s faster
not searching in another followers base -> you miss a lot
not watermarking -> gotta protecting some of your creation
arguing with people online -> focus on you and ignore the haters.

not saying other what people can disclose or not ->_ you will suffer, be very precise what they cannot say
not using the different mediums -> you dont touch everyone you want. use snapchat, instagram, youtube, periscope, as it’s touches diff publics and it’s compound interest

Getting suck in the contrarian mindset -> do the think on your own.
Not talking about yourself thus being exempt of faults -> put yourself out there do be destroyed.

Learning by observing the errors of others 12

Heal some psychologics wounds

Heal risk aversion -> not everything is going to turn bad and your past doesn’t have to repeat itself. Using generalization doesn’t help

Heal error perception -> you didn’t make an error, it was mistake by your result taking.

Heal external validation -> you can value yourself and invest in healthy outcomes.

Don’t stay in  a circle of abuse -> Going away
There are things you need to heal : addictions, not expressing emotions, not allowing good things to you , being nervous,, panicing, tryint to control others, being impulsive, being to quite, being bad at proces, bad at reframing, juding people, blocked in thoughts, not sharing the problems, sacrificing yourself to much. Being too lazy, being afraid of mistakes, being control freak, not listening to feels.

Eliminate these societal illusions : Big Brother State, Masks, Society, Posesssions, Fear of Death, Loneliness, Without Internet, Trashy Planet, Greeed, Being Rude and Being Selfish, or not talking about big Topics.

Heal some psychologics wounds

Learning by observing the errors of others 11

Not checking in , what happens in your body -> Your instinct tells you

Not asking friends to check you -> You will die bc of yourself. And not asking for solutions for your problems.

Holding grudges against someone -> You don’t want that, stop it as soon as you can.
Don’t have regrets or IF situation -> You didn’t know at the time.Excuse yourself and let go.

Not pushing or not pushing the action/responsibility of the other person -> Push the other person
Not seeing the difference between asking to explain and illustrating one situation -> If you go defensive , its up to you.

degrade and dismiss people that aren’t up to whatever standards you think strangers should have when approaching you -> dont dismiss people so easily

only being with yes men people -> people should be able to criticize you

‘keeping tabs’ on ppl, having big ties with the past even if it never work out -> focus on you

acting of desperation -> dont
not having balance -> try to
thinking you cannot go with another social circle, ejecting yourself -> yo can join whatever you want
not valuing yourself  -> love yourself
repeating the same thing over and over -> learn other things
focus on things you cannot control -> focus on you
trying to prove and proving yourself again and again -> you dont have to
listen to podcast, instead of articles -> stop wasting time.

Talking too much about defintion/wanting to define, politics, religion, color issue, social media, pop psychology, commenting other ppl lives-> Be inspiring, be positive, learn diff materials

Staying with someone loose principles -> be a good one.

Using only the emotional lense to analyse a situations -> It’s not a good idea to only use one tool.

Thinking that you are not worthy and that you are not enough -> You are worthy of love whatever your situations is.

Thinking your life is not fair -> it’s not fair for anyone.

Pushing the repeat button for every bad emotions -> Stop it.
Not being capable to settle -> Maybe you can or you have to.

Being too much ambition-driven, solution-driven, improvement-driven, image-drive -> The drive has it’s place.

Thinking there is a need, there is a destination, there is just a higher self -> Just enjoy the road, smell and roses and improve a bit.

Thinking there is a need, wants, goal, purpose, desires, final -> No, there is only the present and what you work for. Everything else drop it.

Thinking that you dont need anyone. -> Maybe one day you will realise the help and that high agency is not worth it. Do it together

Thinking that you are seperate from the population ? You are not

Always something bigger, something higher, something greater -> Greed is a sin.

Not letting go. JUst

Not coming from place of welcoming and appreciating whatever is -> Do it

Learning by observing the errors of others 11

Empathy basics

High level

Professionals have an image to represent, have to portrait this image while they are out. An obligation to conform to the standards.

Say what is right instead what is wrong 🙂 Reassure there is no shame to have, no blame and it’s okay. IT’s your path

Celebrity

A pressure to perform. There is constant recognition of the person/image but not the fragile/vulnerable one.

Vulnerability

You cannot be to fast. You cannot be too intense. The person needs to be comfortable with it. You cannot be judgemental or give a sense of correction, but rather encouragement, guidance and patience. Need time to get better,  and fast results are not realistic if it’s for a long term recovery.

Shell

Severe trust issues, anger issues and codependency resulting in insecurities, it was VERY HARD for to let go of what I had build my « reality ».  The only way of survival for the problems i have encountered in my life, because I’ve never been taught how to be strong&vulnerable.

Conditioned

Sometimes when you are conditioned to put your own happiness behind the one of those who you care for -> bc of not wanting to hurt.

Comfortable with these « expectations -> Ppl get very pressured.

Psycho – analytic

Ppl dont want to be over analysed. People want to feel comfortable, want you to share and want to be an equal level ( thus you have to be vulnerable ). People want you to care and to engage with their emotions, even if negative. Ppl dislike no contact.
Give ppl the right to do, and to feel. Don’t act tough.

Addicts

they are addicts
cause they
dont have support system
succumb to social pressure and expectations
put too much pressure on themselves
not constructive feedback
Mal-adapative psyche
F > options, permission, security, assurance, money, living old, wants.
Intention, screening
Thoughts, Feeling, Weakness, Relationships, Memories
house, entering, have dinner
fairytaile, mysticism
protest -> pain and not understanding
rules and freeness. want to join by herself, coming from an invitation of love, and not forcing. not being slave, but partner.

+

Not everyone has the same paths as you

Not everyone has the same maturity as you

Not everyone has the same values as you

Not everyone has the same foresight as you

-> Just try to understand before judging others. Allow ppl to take their time.

Dont push on the difficulties of other people, it’s childish and hurtful. Be supportive.
You can create a higher plane of cocreation (respect of each other creativity), co-entering ( respect of the respect the world of the other person ), content of fun, love, creation, serenity.

Empathy basics