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having put expectations onto ppl -> find the right ppl, ppl show you who they are
eating too late
not sharing things online
not declaring it’s contextual
doing the asy things
rumingn yourself
not loving ppl bc of their flaws-> love what they good at
searching for`methods
not taking a job

existential terror
not trustining
not having a deadline
too easy tasks
not asking for respect
not dressing for the part
seeking perfection
not being stressed
being afraid to fai
lackiing money
not standing up soson
not connedcting on the good platfomrs
being to excited

not using politnessformulea
not doing some artisic
not taking job
not pushing
not confronting
not asking for he,lp
not joying
not reponsing quickly

taling too mcuh
not knowing how to cut hair

Learning by observing the errors of others 51

Learning by observing the errors of others 50

having povertz midnset -> want that money, strategy, spend better
not demaning better
not being empowered to search solution
being intimaged bz somehing
not seeing the real thing
rejecin feeling
not trusting
not taking action
(a property of an idea directly translates to another idea) and like-for-like relationships.
dressing like shit
abandonging your art
not givint the max
not having faith
Because it’s not aligned with what they see as reality.
not taking it easy
ynicism is a shell that’s protecting this tiny, dear part in them that’s still alive
not being ambigious
not making it personal
not admitting the flaws, onwing yourself
not doing your own things, your unlesh yourself fully
simpyling htings~
not staying true
being too much theorist, conceptual
not rethnking your position
not being able to pay
picking the wrong pppl
thinking things are free in life
Not having a funnel to express towards

Student loans
Expensive wedding
Ridiculous honeymoon
Credit cards
Leased cars
Overbought house
Day care for kids
Gave up hobbies
Gave up friends

not being honest with your love capacity. what you want to try
being withrequires requires non-stop praise and constant, specific emotional boosting. ppl
one sided love, not praising her
not being at the same stage, thus not mathcing
repeating emotioan scenarious over and over
not having a dealine- be extreme with it
addiction to porn, info
be sloth, laziness -> more discipline¨
having too high standards -get along with everyone

not taking action , not making list, not reflecting while reading the book
not doing more
not calling ppl out
take too much time to adopt tools
not seeing big enough

ne pas augmenter son style
trying to have to have
not being capable to discern
not being readigng
not admitting what you ve done and who you are
trying to doge the anser

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Learning by observing the errors of others 49

projecting gender reasinogn into the other (status, hypergam, nice, money9
being terrified of what you might say – not revealing
see the tool as problem not how you use yourself (responsabiity)
mot cooperating
trying to perceive, to conceptualize, to understand, to name, to control
being hasty, trying to see the outcomes
trying to be fast, and shortcuts
letting fear, hesitation, panic control you

Excellence—or Paralyzing Perfectionism
primitive instincts can compel us to bring others down to the same level.
it can turn into obsession, a pursuit that dominates all else and occupies the mind to an alarming degree.
They don’t make waves very often. And therein lies the problem.
collaboration can also lead to diffused accountability
But the pursuit of balance is itself the cause of much imbalance
ork-life balance, today’s preoccupation, is probably the greatest mirage.
compensatinf for not achieving
thhinking you have to do everything
desperer and thus over-working

Bad process
being too materail
revisit thinking & emo process
focus on lakck & posessions
focus on correctness
trying to predict

-he is unemployed (and doesn’t work for himself) -he has no goals  – no house – no decision -> work for it

dont evitate questions -> welcome them.
knowing how to fix things

not geting over your tramuas
not hav expe in rs
projecting your experience
thinking ppl will be perfeect
People who pursue social survival place fitting in and social value over relating.
not adressing the issues
being tuoo cirous
-And finally, relying on technology too much.

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Learning by observing the errors of others 48

stopping to reach
nt having the discipline, the attitude
notbeing ready to sacrifice
we idolize in TV
Don’t give up,
not focus on what makes you happy
wasting time
hinking that it’s ok to do a job that you hate your entire life.
not changing mindest
not working hard
not seeing your market, not knowing how to market, wich platform
not keep in touch with technology¨
not blocking ppl
blocking ppl who might be benefical
not giving love first to ppl
nt intiative conv
not visitng social groups
not going out
se limiter à son propre pays
ne pas regarder sur d’autres sites
ne pas demander l’aide
afraid of life
being afraid of love
not becoming a baby again
regarder des choses qu’onn connait deja
chercher une reponse
ne pas unir ses forces
ne pas chercher un travail
ne pas sauter sur l’occasion
jugding without knowing

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