Learning by observing the errors of others 33

set standards too high -> not everyone is going to have the same as yours
too altruistic -> give yourself a gift
impractical -> be realist
dislike dealing with data -> learn logic
take things too personally -> enjoy conflict
very private -> open yourself more
not having children when is your destiny
waiting , having expectations
thinking that there is a secret, an order
not knowking how to accept frustaation -> you need patience, strategy, feedabak, truth
not knowing that everything is chaning
clinging, craving
not realizing that there is more objectivity

not giving what people want -> tranfer to them prestige, plesaure, experiences, money, job

thinking people are rational -> they rationalize more than you think
not doing what you suck at
not moving quickly on
agreeing to sexless life
not reporting accurately history
not lifting heavy
not having boundarie
focusing too much on feels
verba but no acta
not seing the manip methodes (angers, tears)
thhinkign that you can have 2thing at the same time
staying with people you despirse
basing happiness on another person.
not using fear, dread
trying to many things at once
not pushing enough
not strategish enough
not stretching enough
not having enough work ethic
not having vision
not elevating your ambition
not using your free time
not reinvesting his money
Dressing sloppily
Random internet browsing
Laying in bed
poor hygiene and cleanliness
working too much /reading too much
shy and often prefer stability

Unwillingness to become involved, tendency to be an observer rather than a participant, and use of a verbal defense that often hurts others.

Indecisiveness, the tendency to procrastinate, and being very difficult to motivate.
Unwillingness to become involved in deep relationships, tendency to be an observer only, rarely self-sacrificing, unemotional and inexpressive.

Rigid, inflexible, sensitive to failure, fear of the unknown, fear of failure, apt to be a rebel and procrastinate.
reject people, set standards neither they nor anyone else can meet, develop habits that are very hard to break, have suicidal tendencies, low self-esteem and are pessimistic.

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Learning by observing the errors of others 33

Learning by observing the errors of others 32

Life is not stressing enough -> Put more things on your plate
not touching
not complimenting
not taking risks -> taking moderate ones
not asking for help
not having positive emotions -> do something about it
not upsetting people
not using the adequte intelligence towards xy
not using the correct words
not wanting to translate
wanting the top , but not doing something about it
laughing at your jokes
talking too much and too fast

let another man’s success or failure effect your own self worth.
letting society negative terms to be only considered as negative ( Overconfidence and self-assuredness, arrongant, cocky, self-confidence etc)
staying with down people
that think they have a say in how you should steer your life should be ignored.
letting other people take out the fire out of you
not thinking that you are a choosen for somethigng specific
not putting yourself first
not dreaming
not taking risks
not doinb bad things
not investeing
forgetting that people mind social perpcetion
letting what other people find diff block you
not pushing the enveloppe -> your life depends on it
forgiving people who’ve done bad to you
Not being tested enough
Not confronting women enough
being in a fake thing
believing you dont have it in you
working for the wrong industry
thinking zou hve an identitz even cultural
not listening to the prescribed as dangerous
* what is dangerous ? *
not seeing that people use diff words to express the same thing
wasted a lot of energy and time on people who didn’t deserve
not doing it no matter what sit/environne
not putting money in enjoyement, hobbies, pleasure
not diversifiing money gains

believing in hiearchies
getting stuck by culture£
being affected with anger/fear/hate
being with self-delusion
men leading
lacking concret explanation
mistaking truth and meanining
being something without reaison is oppresive
Hindsight bias in combination with attribution bias make for a deadly kind of self-indulgent arrogance.

Not exploring enough your art * having western production bias/instrument/effects/subjects

Learning by observing the errors of others 32

Quick style lessons

Error :

Buttoning to the top the shirt -> have some air
Have a  t-shirt under v-nick thin pullover -> remove the t-shirt
Having black & grey square shirt -> Have more elaborate, less boring
Wearing easy jeans and or hoodies -> don’t wear easy clothing
lack of petulant clolor
buutons sickenning, no aire -> open up
constrict -> have fitting clothes with enoug fluidity
pantalin froissé
dress poorly
not having muscles masses
ceinture enfantine
rose en dessous du rouge
grez doesnt work
pink pastel doesnt work
Pink, Fuchsia, Cool Berry colors, dusty cool pastels.

rose ne va pas avec le roux

blanc et teint rosé fait très pale, pade couleur qui reinforce la peeur
Pas d’obscur en dessous

le hoodie fait très jeune

ne pas utiiser que la sombritutde

faire attention au surchaffue : graph  9+ colours

rich and neutral not reall working

Easy looks

Black pants + grey pull or kaki pull or red pull or white shirt

Try

Reverse : Pink in, black out.

Clothes categories

Motif : natural ( branches, trees)

Quick style lessons

Learning by observing the errors of others 31

always wanting more
listening to someone who doesnt know history
not knowing the circumstances change the person
not knowing what you wanted to be enjoed for
the qualities becomes quirks

being too much present. being too much away. providing too much.
spending time with unconsous people
not having values and virtues
not kwowing what love is
not asking questions
letting other people make you feel inadequate

not taking a day off
being alwazs wary
missing sides of life, not allowing zourself to indulge, or being too strict/discplined with zourself
have nilism in strides
consuming outrage
having second class attitude

taking everything to heart -> take time before react
splashign everywhere -> be calm
being agressive inflexifble -> be like water

not giving counsel -> giving counsel and hard if it’s not to be
not doing better than your counself -> improve the world.

while travelling not planning
Not reesting
Not taking the lead
Not dating people

not expressing yourself

ne pas vouloir mieux
wanting to control everything
Wanting always more
attacking -> reflecting and defend also

not trying
not adapting

Philosophing too much

 

Learning by observing the errors of others 31

Learning by observing the errors of others 30

afraid of mistakes
being intolenrant
over questionning
eveloping a spiritual ego, instead of dis-identifying with it.?
develop a superiority complex, compensatio
seeking. try to find info, medi, ego/identity. running away
escaping. denying. comfort. surviving. wanting to get. wanting to get.-> be still
having the bad environnement
not talking to a group
having a shitty writing
not saying something what you have in mind
not recoginzig blindspots, not asking about them
not readjusting about the environnement
Logic is dismsing bc the value structure, or relationship
liking simple colorful general explanation
being extremly contrast.
not using your potential
being too naive. not getting hurt.
making another person the point of the adventure
not being resolute and impervious
projecting values into people
letting people dispose of zou, giving them everzthing -> make people earn it
not knowing separeating users of lovers.
misattributing competition -> cooperation is the true winner
being ok with pressure of someone
not putting Honesty, trust and respect
following people using narcissism and idiocracy and dramaa
getting hypnotizse by words
considering people who have too many friends, too much on phone -> waste of time
trying to please others -> please yourself and fuck expectations
not cleaning correctly for the other people _> people care about hygiene.

not being patient -> be ready to wait ten years for something.
Idealizing the person -> see where they are at, see the real person. If you don’t talk about the past and issues, it’s probably not real.

Not seeing the red flags (smartphone, glamour,
Not responding to a professiona request.
Not giving the photos

Not puttting yourself out there.
Trying to be perfect _> be ok with who you are

saying no to technology
using too much cynic realism
no saying no to people
having weak persusasion skilss
not understanding the opposite sex
not finding a connector/ distributor

 

 

Learning by observing the errors of others 30

Retrospection

Regrets and correction

REGRET : NOT PLANNED. NOT DISCIPLINED. NOT SEEING THE POTENTIAL. NOT TRYING. NOT CLEAN ENOUGH.

Not studying the subjects -> know why you study the subject.
Not getting friends in the group -> dont’ be selfish. ask questions about people.
Not fully searching your style
Not developping your muscles.
Not meeting enough know people.
Not knowing enough place to hang out. Staying in the same groups. Staying in cold countries.
Not organizing enough diners and meet-ups.
Not taking back contact people and not phoning them.
Abandonning sports.
Not loving competition enough.
Not having a precise project going on.
Not moneytizing your talents.
Not making a move on a girl who is interested.
Not using something special for photos outside.
Not learning enough dance.
Losing faith and plunging into intellectualism, and nihlism. Accepting that your life sucks.
NOt taking a job.
Not giving present, not organzing birthdays.
Not taking a big comittement.
not asking permission for the things i should.
Not taking enough trips.
Not joining something , dance or conversation.
Not learning self-defense.
Not purusing something at expert level.
Not learning how to cook.
Not knowing how to camp, wildlife.
Not visiting your city. Not going in nature (bc too much tech)
Not knowing your culture.
Doing something i am not qualified for.
Not throwing away using clothes.
Not preparing enough even we cannot turn out great
Doing things at the last moment.
spending too much time alone.
Not being vulnerable.
Not creating.
staying in touch with people not wanting your best.
Not trying deguisement.
Not asking more questions.
Not showcasing more .
NOt having your hair in order. Not wearing accessoires.
Not taking advantage of your youth. benefical promotion.
Not searching for exchange program.
Not doing enough challenges. NOt forcing enough.
Having bad sleeps . Forgetting to chill.
Not solving problems at the root.
Not learning a new language. not learning extreme sports.
Not meeting the neighbours.
Reading too much
Not being with the people who appreciate me.
Taking too many photos and sorting them out.
Not changing yourself.
Not seeking the righ people to collaborate with.
Being too much in a spiritual plane.
Not searching for event in other cities.
Not seeing and noting all the options.
not being seductive enoughnot taking a drink to meetup
Not knwoing when you are presnt. not having an agenda/planner
not keeping in touch with your family.
Not asking materials from your friends.
not joining teams or popular events.
Not washing yourself correctly. not cutting the beard.
not being sensual enough

Having the same style for too long
staying with unhealthy, uncosious people
Not getting paid for your work
not making more pictures
not making more picture with others
not making big elaborated projects
not using free time correctly -> learn . listen to audiobooks. write question. continue planning, assess the best of the situations.
Not having enough variety -> do ice skating, go to cinema, nourish plants. read. learn a skills. go to a party.

not being agressive enough
avoid life more than enjoy it/confronting it
not trying
not acting on impulse
not approaching enough
not competign enough
not feeling and appreciating change
not using art enough
not being sensual/sexual/flirty -> use massage, cooking, dancing, hiking
not beign fierce enough
not enough strategizing
being to reserveed
not going out enough, not taking numbers to meet -> take numbers, make a group , go out
learning but no applying
not being motivated
helping too much sometimes
not being consistent
not being productive enough
not dancing enough
not using the old arts
not taking associations
not approach people
not taking it to the next level
not learning haircuts
not learning style

Not meeting up with people after

not taking phone numbers

not spreading your social energy

trying with someone wher it doesnt work out

I^m 25
plein de temps passé -> find solution to delegate
pas assez de plan -> structure your life, ask for help
pas assez de push -> get out of the house
pas assez de friends -> get out more, meetu

pas assez de fete -> join people, va aux concerts

regrets

not taking more materials about people
not taking a chance
Not taking advantage of every moment -> planifiy what you want to do

Goood points and continue

FORTE: AUTHENCTIC. KIND.

Being assertive and taking photos
joining people and doing things
advertising events to people
Asking random things
Reading in a non native language.
Seeing life everywher.
BEing ready to be taken in hpto.
Taking style-objects from other people.
taking photos to remember
not aksing permission

asking amd making massage
beingbold and asking to get somewhere
Being social gracious
GIving advice to people
Experimenting with photos, with objects
pushing people to get up
Going to the events where you want
Giving compliments
Getting to know other cultures. Trying a diff music style than you are used to .
Plan to meet-up. FInd cool spots in a city.
Having varieted cultural space.
Welcoming friends in your home.
Taking photos of the people your meet and who are important.
Saying compliment to people who matter.
Making ridiciulous and bold actions.
Talking back to someone who met years ago.
Did exotic sports(capoeira)
Try to win some internet challenges.
Using objects to alimentate your life.
Take a risk before an audience. (otherwise you regret)
Taking people in photo.
Meeting and learning from old people.
Take the photos I WANT.
Being sponteuse. Meeting a stranger.
Dressing like how I want
Saying no to alchohol, smoking.
LIVING HOW I WANT.
Discovering many types of music.
Learning from other people.
Put FB for promotion and helping.
Buying clothes you like.
Learning from children.
Learning to hug.
Climibing on three.
Being patient and kind.
Asking for quirks, strangeness
Doing some absurd things
Buying something for the future.
Building commonplaces.
Not staying with one group.
Going to haiti
having crazy amount of organsiation. introspection and collection and sharing
having a good vibes. being helpful to people
having organic language
find your drive to introspect and individuate impressive

Retrospection