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Believing you have a fix personality. You dont have a fix personality, you can change far more than you think.

Labelling yourself as im not a  »  » and thus not exploring. Dont label yourself too soon. You can be many things at the same time.

Thinking that you have silly thoughts. No point in being judgemental against yourself and not confiding.

Not getting to the point.  GO straight to the point if you can.

Not taking iniative to meet friends, to call them. Friensdhips are you make out of it.

Not balancing ourselves to interact with friends. Relationships are everything.

Taking too much projects on and not focusing one. Concentrate and have big focus.

Pretending something. Dont pretend something, be you. cause it will come out soon or later.

Not question loving bombing. It’s a very dangerous technic technics used to control.

Not demanding to cut contact with ex, with lovers. Detach yourself from the past.

Not identifitying if someone is misogynistic, self centered, insecure rs, insecurities, vida loca. How do you expect to be in a relationship with someone like that.

Too much personal stories written which leads to nothings, like selling yourself ?? Concentrate on something bigger than yourself.

Thinking life is fair. No it’s not.

Being full of yourself. Also a big no, keep that humility near you.

Appreciating the ego boost. Well you need only to validate yourself.

Not doing uplift rather than criticizing them. Uplift people that is a basic life principle.

Doing too much social media if not ready. Go only if you psychologically stable.

Reading what is not necessary. Stop reading, write your own book.

Not making the right connections. Dont look for the wrong people.

Wasting too much time on twitter. No connect with real people or connect with succesful on Twitter.

Having to big of life discussion over fb messenger. Do it face to face.

Involving yourself to much into other life. Not your life is more important.

Subscribing to too much newsletters. Dont subscribe to too much newsletters.

People treat how  you let them. People treat you as you let them. So set your boundaries straight.

Not doing everything for a job, you need money. you need to survive.

Not going out. GO out. Life is not only about work.

Doing too much things at the same time. No one by one.


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Having a too arranged life not enough surprises not romantism, not travel. It will drive you crazy because of boredom. You need creativity in your life.

Not demanding enough from the wife/husband, not raising standards in the relationship. Comfort never brings satisfaction, and lazyness kills passion and drive.

Thinking of yourself as bad if you need/had help. No you’re gonna need help, you cannot do it alone.

Attitude loser who blamed « luck » and a « rigged system » for failures. No it was probaly your fault, and you had a skewed vision of reality.

Wanting to matter . Then live , do not wait or want.

Searching for truth, too much. This was/is the philosopher tomb. Life is not only about understanding. The same can be said about reading biographies, it does not help that much. Be your own hero.

Dwelling in the past. No wrong focus. Focus on the present.

Think popular days are important, no they arent. Only if you them importance, they are.

Being alone when family time is possible. Family and relationships is what life is about.

Making quick jugements and not asking questions.Congrats you’re elimanating a possible good person for your future

Staying with a narcisstic pervert. Strive for healing and for better relationships.

Focusing on what someone is missing, instead of the mission. No person will fulfill you totally. Too much focus on one person is too heavy.

Smoking with no reason or rationalisation or spending and drinking to much. Don’t endanger your life.

Not going to the root problem. You have always to go to the root.
spending too much speaking and not doing. DO more, think less.

Not connecting with other cultures and people. Living in your own buble doesn’t offer that much.

Living behind a fear paradigm. Be very precise about your fear, find statistics about it and be very rational about when to be.

Not appreciating the play you are living. This is life.

Talking to much about yourself. Life doesn’t only exists for monologues.
not forgiving yourself. You know you have too. Drop that weigh.

Ne pas assumer son histoire. assume your story be real.
ne pas oser devant les gens. be confident , this is life baby.
ne pas être balancé. Try to find some balance, it’s probable that it will give you comfort.

ne pas avoir automatic income. IF you haven’t one you will be dependent.

Holding on the illusion the perfect man, woman. It’s imperfect and this is good for you.
Destroying the relationship even if’s good. Why do you do that. Search well for the reasons.

Not asking if someone wants to be a parent in a couple. Do not waste years by not being upfront in the relationship.

Not demanding more in the couple, being apathetic, not seeing the real person. THis is gonna crash.

Not healing onself, you and the couple. The cracks will explode.

Blaming someone instead of taking responsability. Take reponsability as much as you can.

Thinking too much of the future. YOu live in the present, remember ?

you can never blame the other person, just yourself for not realizing it sooner. people do ruin your life…..but only if you let them

Dont mispeak on other people. It often comes back. Karma style.

asking what others want to do. Choose what you want to do.

Not beginning the interaction. Be the leader, begin first.

Do everythings as a couple. have your time, so desires is present.

Dont take a to big house. You probably need much, unless you have kids.

being prooud of sexual numbers. It this really the best metric you can have and brag about.

no shared values. you shoudn’t ever see each other.

Not knowing how to declare the problems  Try to be explicit.


Lecturing someone when you dont know about their situation, their life and when you have less life experiences. Do not ever lecture, it’s not worht it.

Thinking be the lone wolf is cool and necessary. No life is about necessary.

Commenting on other people sexuality. Too much external vision and not enough on your self and body.

Being impulsive too much. at the risk of lives. You have a brain use it.

Talking about definitions too much. Words are invented by humans, and definitions too, you will never come to a perfect agreement.

Ne pas avoir des conversations brutes. You need honest conversations far more than you think.

Joindre un mouvement ou tendance populaire. No dont’ do it. It will forgotten very fast.
Not cutting contact cut off contact directly. Embrace the change. Go cold fucking turkey. She/he is dead to you

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