Les clefs de la vie

In French

Imaginons un coffre avec des multiples serrures, chaque serrure ouvrant un min coffre possédant un trésor unique. Chaque clef permettra d’ouvrir ce trésor mais aussi de récupérer une partie du grand trésor, l’Art de la Vie. Ici présent sont les clefs de la vie qui garantissent bien souvent une vie heureuse

1. Stoïcisme, le fait d’accepter le destin et de ne pas essayer de tout contrôler. Que si un de nos proches meurent on ne crie pas injustice, mais c’est la vie. Que quand le train part juste devant notre nez, on sourit à la place de s’énerver pour rien.
2. Se défaire des illusions ; que ce soit les mensonges pratiquées par la publicité, les cultures, les politiciens, il s’agit d’affronter la vérité et de ne pas se terrer comme une autruche.
3. Créer à la place de consommer ; un grand nombre de moment de vie nous offre deux possibilités et souvent l’acte de création produire un meilleur contenu, donne une confiance supplémentaire, démontre les capacités de l’individu, des ex : acheter/produire de la bière, voir/construire un film, etc
4. Pas d’égoïsme exagéré, mais de la place au collectivisme, à la communauté
5. Pratiquer l’exercice de la raison ; se demander d’où viennent les idées, sont-elles fausses, comment peuvent-elles vérifiées ? Est-ce possible de voir cela d’une autre façon ?

6. Utiliser ses deux oreilles, ses deux yeux plus que sa bouche : Surtout vrai si on est jeune, et on tellement souvent dans le tort de nos affirmations, de nos actions. Prendre le temps d’écouter le professeur/le mentor/le passant/l’artiste nous offre la joie d’étendre nos perspectives mais aussi de réussir une connexion humain.
7. Avoir des amitiés profondes, donnantes-donnantes, qui solidifie l’individu dans son être physique/émotionnel/spirituel/psychologique ou autre
8. Développer une humanité, en développant son empathie envers tout le monde, comprendre les situations avant de juger, de la compersion pour être heureux quand les autres sont heureux/amoureux. Ne pas s’estimer au dessus mais comprendre qu’on est égaux en tant qu’humain et que chacun combat pour sa vie.
9. Savoir maitriser la technologie bureautique ; savoir faire des recherches / où trouver l’information (ainsi que sa pertinence+son utilisation), acclérer le processus (flux rss pour synchroniser les infos, ou faire opérer une ligne de code pour qu’une tâche s’effectue de manière non assisitée ), savoir proteger son réseau, sa boite mail, etc
10. Parler à tout le monde ; ne pas faire de différenciation entre classes, professions, genre, origines

11. Penser au long terme, et réduire la pensée court terme ; toute action a ses conséquences et savoir que ce momemt même va déterminer comment notre futur va être constitué.
12. Approcher diverses philosophies et façon de pensées : ne pas avoir l’arrogance nombriliste que notre façon de pensée est correcte et adéquate maintenant et voir les choses en s’aidant de la littérature, de la philosophes
13. Forger une empathie/sympathie envers tout le monde
14. Vouloir changer le monde et y contribuer

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Les clefs de la vie

What is your mindset ?

Your mindset is your personal guide, your mover. It will occur when your conflicts happen, discussing about politics, interacting with people, going out, building a business. It’s your mental toolbox. With the years and the experiences, if refines and redefines itself. It’s impossible to live 100 % to one mindset, but it’s a ideal we should strive for.

Here I present my current mindset, to give some inspiration ;

Living

Live

I am already in the greatest adventure : my own life. Life everyday as a new life and everyday as it were you last. I will live memorable moments. I welcome every moments with joy and laughter knowing that every second is unique and temporary. Play with the world, amuse yourself, flex the world, jump around, giggle & touch, cry, love.

Sensations

Every moment I expose myself to new sensations. I shall taste new food, new spices, new mixtures, having a large appetite. A habit to initiate new experiences is in the mind. Not to forget the pink wonderland, sensuality sexuality and it’s discoveries.

Spontaneous

Grabbing life by the balls. By not being in homeostasis, I will spread my joyous seed. Face your fears all the time, you won’t die. Also kill yourself a little bit everyday, by remembering that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Time

My time is very important. TO build my life, my love, my empire. I don’t waste time for with negative people. We have only life, so make it the best it can be is a good bet. I value my lone time as value time with my friends, I need both.

Life toolbox

Abundance

I will create opportunities. We’re all gonna make it brah, I’ m not superior. If I can support you, I do. Be the sun, be generous. More inner richness I have, more I have to offer. My goal is to build a so abundant being in-myself, never tired to giving, to further society.

Focus

It’s time to start yourself seriously.Focus on your mission, each day and it will be good. Always maintain a purpose. I choose a limited of friends who will join and support my mission.

Growing

Every day I try to grow, a day without improvement & action in some part seems wasted. I can only compare myself to my yesterday-day and I shall already be better than my tomorrow version. Changing my life, so I will be who I cherish, becoming more than a person, an idea, an verb, a historic figure, an inspiration. I have to seek legend-status to pretend I lived to my true self. When ever I can I compliment people who are inspiring

Laugh my friend

Laugh about your mistakes, to say it’s okay, it’s funny, it’s a dumb things. Laugh about society, conventions, laws, traditions, life because sometimes it seems like a really big joke. Laugh because it’s good for your health.BE silly about life and your work .Start a conversation with an some anecdote or question, such as asking the group to suggest names for a five-legged cat, the president of Mars, the forename of a tree to get a good laugh.

Stoicism

I remain calm as much as possible, breathing trough my belly. I don’t let affect myself by things I can control. I have my own frame, sense of reality. I cannot fear death since I don’t know what it is. So I enjoy life as it comes. We all make mistakes, it’s okay, don’t make a big thing about it.

Relationships

Amour

Be everyone’s soulmate!:) We are one human family, let’s connect. There is no reason to hate, only to love. Smile when you see a baby, when a couple kisses(compersion). I am happy when my friends are happy.

Social

Be the one who set’s fire in each person. Be not selfish to hold your inner treasure for yourself and show it the world. Each person is unique, and has something beautiful in them, There’s so much life in every person. Appreciate this fact whenever you can. Remind yourself that the other person will benefit to talk with me and I will too.

I will treat everyone with same amount of respect , whatever the job/gender/appearance/status/living/condition. Perhaps the person is not beautiful in a physical sense, but I will go underneath to discover the essence of the person. I don’t attack, name-call people, gossip, because it’s a stupid, childish, non comprehensive behavior. If judgement occurs I will restrain myself to voice it.

Everyone is connect do me in some sense. Everything is connected, filled with emotions and perceptions. I stay positive or stoic against negatives peoples, giving love to not walk on the wrong highway.

Being

Masculine

Commit to your masculine energy. Live trough your brain, body and balls. 3B FUSION. Live up to your potential. Be the King/Warrior/Magician/ Lover fusion combined and unleash the energy. I am proud to be a man, to be the best. Depending on the situation I shall my invoke my CAVEMAN side, welcoming risk, trying to be wounded, being primal. Primal can be defined as being playful, being crazy, being bold, being crazy so much that I know all women desire me.

Validation

I am an hero myself ; number of sufferings, number of mental discrepancies trough the continuous learning, learned skills, learned mindset and attitudes. Add to this the things renounced, erasing the old mindset to forge a new one. I am a socially and emotionally intelligent person seeing trough the life matrix. I am important, I deserve an awesome life. I am enough, I am worthy of love, sex and life. I You are beautiful, cause you’re developing yourself everyday

Who am I

I am the shit, I’m awesome, I’m the prize. BE the one who sets sparkles around them, who creates butterflies in each girl belly, the one who is praised by the young’s and respected by the old people.

And what’s your mindset ? How does it affect your life ?

What is your mindset ?

Three information-system sites with tremendous benefits

The thing about information, is that there is lot a catch on, so much information, terabytes of it running trough the web and you want to be ready to function with powerful tools ; so can you be more powerful achieving the things you want, have more money, possessing more ressources -> having a improved life thanks to having control over it.

So here they are, the tools who helped me a lot in the past years

  1. Netvibes

This a an RSS-reader which allows organize the RSS-feeds you are visiting, into multiple tabs (arts-economy-kitchen-whateveryouwant) and you can open multiple pages which have their own tabs ( a page about culture with the tabs : music , cinema, writing, reading then another page about technology with the tabs : Code, 3D Printing, Virtual reality etc ). You can configure each rss-feed how you want to procede.

The real benefit : It allow you to not more waste any time on reaching webpages, because the articles/data are collected automatically. There a lot of other possibles in the premium offer.

2. Pearltrees

This is basically a visual bookmarking Service, which interacts with the most prefered humans sense, in pictures. You identify far more trough images than text and that’s why it’s clever. It functions trough adding per the website it-self, per extension (very handy). You put your websites, your finding into folders, from one to infinite, it depends on your personal classification system . You can export the bookmarks into a hmtl file as back up file.

The real benefit : You can save a lot of webpages, it’s pratical to have a additonal place to Access/back-up your bookmarks … but the best is : curation. When you add some websites, Pearltrees will find users who have stored the same item and it will find folders with same item(and with other articles found by the users). So let’s say you create a folder : visual arts … then Pearltrees with find per click of the my interest buttons related to folders for example : photography, videography, painting and visual arts folders of course. TLDR : Others curate for you, and you curate the web for others.

3. Twitter

The place where people mind-bits are officialised. You can post everything you want, you can follow who ever you want, you can subscribe to thousand lists (mainly containing users from the same community, domain, ideas)and you can buy things yes … But the real use is based on information aka articles/Video/music sharing, thoughts/ideas/concerns of the users and the connection/communities you make with other trough like mini-conversations & mini-supports & mini-joys & mini-clashes

The real benefits : You can follow experts in every domain : photography, leadership, language so you can access to their thoughts + shared articles + their list. And I forgot the best part : Hashtags -> Words who classify the tweets and you can see a livestream of opinions on a event, for example #balitmore

I will expand on more information-sites later on, but these are three most useful for me and maybe for YOU 😉

Three information-system sites with tremendous benefits

Types of elitism

Elitism is a concept, where you consider your life/way of living/ culture superior to another. Considering the others visions about life as average, as inferior. But is it true. That’s another question. Here I present some elitism, and you reflect yourself if you posses them.

  • Musical Elitism * Cinematographic Elitism * Educational Elitism * Book Elitism * Magazine Elitism
  • Job Elitism * Career Elitism * Job place Elitism
  • Mindset Elitism * Physical Elitism * Clothing Elitism

What is the goal to suppress or at least to not voice the elitism ? To be human, to relate to everyone, to show some humility, to not have a false perception of yourself, accepting that are no snowflake, to being average.

Types of elitism

Too much time ? Learning

You think you have time to waste in life ? Rethink again, after seeing the list of the following things you can/should learn ;

Advertising : Advertisement, Manipulation, Consumer psychology

Communication : Use of social media (Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube), knowing what no to show on social media

Computer science : basics of office automation, some security, P2P, VPN, coding

Culture : Double standards, Pop Culture, Gender expectations

Health : Feldenkrais, Meditation

Information : Knowing how to write, knowing how to read, data synthesis/ do a summary, mapping

Interpersonal : Social Skills, Non-Defensive Communication, Use of Logic, Communication, Framing, Empathy & Sympathy, Living with another person, Relationships, Concepts, Dealing with Psychopaths/Sociopaths/Narcissists/Toxic People,

Language : Learn English, French, German, Spanish, Russian, Polish, Arabic, etc (takes a lot of time)

Nutrition ( healthy foods, raw foods, macro-nutrient, testosterone/estrogen containing foods, minerals, sugar & salt )

Professional skills : Searching for the right models, decision making, long term prospective planning, Passive Income, Business Ownership, Entrepreneur, Presentation

Self : Self-Acceptance, Self-Love, Self-Evaluation, Self-control, Losing the Self, Owning your opinions, Having your universe, Mindset & Blocking negative thoughts

And Basic of Psychology, Law, Sociology, Linguistic, History, Economy, Philosophy, Cybernetics etc


And there are questions you can research to further the quality of your life ;

Activities : What are the benefits of x ? What should do I as hobby ?

Communication : How can I speak more intensely ? How can I have a deeper voice ? How do I correct my accent ?

Interpersonal : How do build deeper relationships ? How do you build a network, what are the benefits of it ? Is a life with friends worth living ? Where can you meet people ?

Life : What the greatest life-lessons ?

Professional : What are the best role models for Y job ? What are the office politics ?

Productivity : How can I stop procrastination ? What should I delegate ?

Time : How should I spend my time ? What does really matter in the end ? What are the things we wasted most time on ? How can you have more time in a day ?

Too much time ? Learning

Learning by observing errors of others

Three ways of learning life exists : learning by onself (experience), learning by books (reading), learning by others (observation). Here I deal with the observationnal part, recognizing the errors of other people. It maybe not an error for the concerned one, but as Judge at the right moment, it was.


In real life errors

Victimisation error : To consider onself victim by some/the system. Does this bad system really exist or is it just a cry for sympathy ?

Phenomenon error : Not undertanding what is happening, not understanding the pattern, the why, the who of a moment.

No help error : Not asking for help, even if needed and it repeatedly sayed. Swalloying the pride is a good thing if you cannot achieve this alone.

Letting the others do it error : How will you learn ? If someone does it instead you, you cannot acquire the experience. Be it homework, some tasks on the computer, thinking about somehting

Playing too much error : Even if someone needs to play, to have fun in life, it’s very unclear when it becomes too much. And when it becomes a delaying of the work. When it’s instant gratification

Not growing error  : Everday one should grow, and not be comfortable. To experience the pinnacle of human experience and fulfillement in every domain possible. Otherwise com|pla¦cence sticks in, as well too much routine and life quality reduces.

Wanting to follow too much popular culture error : Popular culture is designed for the masses, but never for the individual. The substance is not very profound for those people wanting a deep and maybe introspective experience. Plus there are some very dark political theories about popular culture which doesn’t give envy to follow it a long time. Maybe you will see the vapidity of it, one day.

Only consumming and not producing error : It’s nice and fast to consume. But. There is no confidene gained about consumming something, only when producing confidence arises. It’s also about what last when you’re quit the earth, and consumming leaves only ashes behind, not seeds and trees. It’s forgetting to give ! Only taking ! Oh such a soul can be very tortured at the end.


On Internet and Twitter

Buys the last commercial product, an Iphone. But does it help ? Is it really needed ? Or to follow the crowd ?

Writing too much life on social media down, even if the Internet remembers everything. It’s far more wise to keep it to a few friends.

Having tatoos far too fast fast and with not enough reflexion. Tatoos were always linked to a tribe, to difficult situations, to show a personality and not for adorning the beauty or raising self esteem.

Being to fast in communication, here was the excepert : OWN your words, idiot. + Sorry for the name calling. Simple solution dont name call or judge people.

Some woman star raising her children alone. Why not, but there are several studies showing declaring it will not have the best effects on the kids developpement, when the dad is missing. Plus there is the question of the capacity to really do it.

Not question yourself about relationships, and thererfom missing the appriopriate relationship model. There are many variatios of relationships.

Comparing oneself to others. It doesn’t make any sense, not everyone had the same mind, same experiences, same relationships, same reality, same oppurinities, same personality, etc.

Saying too much I don’t know. Then don’t say it or reflect more on it.

Crying to attempt an argument.  Speak slowly and put your ego to the side.

Thinking bad of women or men. Probably due to a very inaccurate perception. It only makes missing oppurtinities.

Having a steady social circle. Too comfortable in relationships and not seeking more adequate will always detrimental to the construction of the ideal life.

Thinking you have to have some particular body. No, you are probably okay and not ugly. Dont fix on something which is not a problem.

Waiting for relationships to happen. It doesn’t just happen, you have to show your intent and poursue people.

Not etablishing boundaries with people. People will as much take, attack, trample you as you let them.

Staying with someone who doesn’t love you. Don’t do it. Relationship are making or breaking you.

X has not learned to control his addiction.Fix your issues and healing is critical

Only writing on some subjects. Not exploring therefore the vast possiblites of the brain. But also for debates. And to develop oneself by being more curious.

Admiring someone for too long and not become a model oneself. You cannot become authentic if other people have too much influence on your molding.

Gossiping about stars. They are taking your time when you’re observing them, thus not living, merely existing.

Focusing too much on how one will bring happiness. Happiness has to come from within, this is well known. The less you await completance by others, the more you feel responsible to achieve it by yourself.

Learning by observing errors of others

What are the best traits one can have ?

Understanding one cultures ; and not judging it, but trying to understand the why and whereabouts of it. Until we as humans labels other cultures as horrible, stupid, disgusting it will be difficult to get along, to join one collective humane experience.


Helping others ; knowing that life is not only about yourself but about others. To help them, to encourage them, to love them, to live with them. Selfishness is great to a certain degree, but if it’s not wisely used it will burn you.

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Having empathy ; everyone has a different path and different life experiences, therefore other thoughts/opinion. So patience, calm and explanations are needed to get along, to walk on the same path. There is always a big want to help, and nothing much in return.


Having a positive mindset ; erasing or better stopping negative thoughts to infiltrate your body. Negative thoughts are taking the control of someone, positive thoughts are spreading life around. Releasing warmth around also, appreciating every person and moment.

Thinking for oneself, not having dogmas and forced system beliefs forced upon. Not having prejugements about a particular person/group/culture but trying to learn. Every opinion that enters the mind has to be rethought, every information researched. Knowing from wich context(economical, historical, social), psychological form(personality of the author) the information came out, the message and the intent. Generalisation are not well considered. The speaker knows that words have an impact

Seeking to the understand the life experience of the opposite sex. Simply because they are the same expectations, the same socialisation, the same emotional experiences, the same difficulties. Many variations of the perception on life, relationships, power, love, money, culture, society are present and one’s understanding leads to a better social construction. Knowing which hardships your wife has suffered can even help you daughter and your other female realtives.
What are the best traits one can have ?